L Is For My Real Name

26 Aug

sssh! (Photo credit: Stephen Dagnall)

The latest in my occasional series of The A To Z Of The Laughing Housewife finds me at my real name.

When I started this blog, I thought anonymity was a good idea (yes, the writing was that bad).  

I then told you every time I had a poem published, with a link if the poem was online; or a photograph of the page in the anthology with my full name in bold (I never use my middle name, of course – Vanity).

As I always use my real name when I’m published (and in my Twitter feed), I suspect the anonymity thing isn’t really working for me.

I might as well just come out and say it:

My name is Tilly, and I am a Linda.

Why do you use a pseudonym; and is it a waste of time?

62 Responses to “L Is For My Real Name”

  1. adinparadise August 26, 2012 at 19:09 #

    I think you definitely look like a Tilly. 🙂


  2. kiwidutch August 26, 2012 at 19:49 #

    I do and it’s not.
    All parts of my name (even my middle name) are unusual and distinctive so I could be quickly identified. Ergo I’m Kiwidutch on-line everywhere and I love my anonymity.


  3. misswhiplash August 26, 2012 at 20:05 #

    If I send you an e mail you are Linda …if I reply on WordPress it is TillyB..but I wonder why.?
    i think I might get rid of Misswhiplash and just use Patrecia


  4. gigihawaii August 26, 2012 at 20:19 #

    I use gigi-hawaii because it is catchy. However, my real name is revealed in “About” (my bio) because I am trying to market my books.


  5. jamieonline August 26, 2012 at 20:47 #

    I’m just Jamie x


  6. laurieanichols August 26, 2012 at 20:53 #

    I like both. Tilly Linda or Linda Tilly. They are both you and I like it that way.


  7. vivinfrance August 26, 2012 at 21:23 #

    I have the greatest difficulty in thinking of you as Linda, even though that is how I first knew you way back when. Tilly suits you! I never liked your fbf identity, though: Mummy Darling was just too twee!


  8. viveka August 26, 2012 at 21:37 #

    Linda, I like you .. as what ever you are …. my name is Viveka, but goes under Wivi,- Thea Maria .. or Wiga.


  9. sanstorm August 26, 2012 at 21:38 #

    Tilly, Tilly Bud is a genius pen-name.


  10. Miss Rambler August 26, 2012 at 22:10 #

    I use a pseudonym because a) it was the one condition under which my father would allow me to have a blog and b) I just don’t like people to know who I am. I don’t trust the internet, really. Plus, not letting on to my true identity makes me feel like a superhero with a blog, even if my only superpower is alliterating and coming up with cool similes.
    As far as I know, it’s not a waste of time–I have yet to let the true identity of the Rambler slip anywhere online.


  11. Patti August 26, 2012 at 23:33 #

    I used my middle name the very first day I started this blog. It didn’t last – someone made a comment and kept calling me “Ellen” and it just seemed wrong. So I use my own name and leave everyone else I mention anonymous. I like all your names for your family – and Tilly is a good name for the laughing housewife 🙂


  12. boomiebol August 26, 2012 at 23:34 #

    My name is a mouthful for many so I use my nickname…thankfully it’s sounds exactly like the short version of my first name.


  13. robincoyle August 27, 2012 at 00:19 #

    You will never be Linda to me.


  14. jmgoyder August 27, 2012 at 05:36 #

    Very interesting question, Linda!


  15. jmgoyder August 27, 2012 at 05:38 #

    I just tried to think of you as Linda but it didn’t work. For me you are Tilly!


  16. danbohmer August 27, 2012 at 11:12 #

    I opted not to use a pseudonym, just seemed like it would be easier to be who I am


  17. katharinetrauger August 27, 2012 at 13:50 #

    I use my real name to force people to learn how to spell it. There is a copyright lawyer — who has on occasion beat up on Christian publishers — whose name is Katherine Trager. Since I did not think it very professional to use a pseudonym, I decided to force the issue.
    Besides, she spells hers wrong, and this is my revenge. Katherine (with an e in the middle) is not true to the original Greek; neither is any form of the name beginning with a c.
    My name. My rant. 😉
    But long, long ago, when I did feel shy and did use a fake name, everyone knew it was me by the writing style. That still baffles me.


  18. Tinman August 27, 2012 at 19:10 #

    Tilly Bud suits you, it’s a great name.

    A lot of my family and friends know who I am now, but I still like the name Tinman, I think he can get away with more than I can. And the kids like it.


  19. slpmartin August 27, 2012 at 23:09 #

    Hmm…I suspect the government knows who and where you are…no matter what name you use. 🙂


  20. Three Well Beings August 28, 2012 at 06:02 #

    Isn’t it fun that we can be anyone we want to be…and even have multiple personalities. You are a delight! I’m glad you came clean. 🙂 Debra


    • scarlettruby August 28, 2012 at 14:55 #

      The thing about pseudonyms/aliases – you get to know someone as one name – and then you discover their real name which to you then seems quite foreign. I always think of you as Tilly and I agree with Tinman that it suits you. Long live Tilly!!


    • Tilly Bud - The Laughing Housewife August 29, 2012 at 12:11 #

      Thank you, Debra 😀


  21. Piglet in Portugal August 28, 2012 at 20:59 #

    “Why do you use a pseudonym; and is it a waste of time?”

    Howdy Linda!, but you will always be Tilly

    This is an excellent question! And one on which I’ve pondered long and hard since creating my blog over 2yrs ago.
    I used to be known as PiP, then gradually I used my first name. But then I’m not a writer so it does not matter.

    I still don’t publish photos of myself as the internet is a weird place. Once one of my blogging buddies not only posted a photo of herself, but also her home and location! Mad crazy or what?


  22. benzeknees August 29, 2012 at 07:32 #

    I use my pseudonym to keep my whereabouts secret from my stalker (for real). My stalker is a former friend & I have moved 5 times & re-married since I last saw her. I would be very afraid if she knew where I am.


  23. sarsm August 29, 2012 at 15:55 #

    The good thing about my name is that there are literally millions of us out there – so I’m still anonymous. I have trouble with pseudonyms – because I have trouble remembering names full stop. I wouldn’t be able to blog at all if I didn’t use real names (I already live in a confused state) ;.).


  24. Pseu August 29, 2012 at 22:06 #

    Yes and no


  25. eof737 September 2, 2012 at 09:28 #

    I don’t use a pseudonym at all.. maybe I should have when I started blogging but it’s too late now. 😉


  26. grannymar September 5, 2012 at 14:51 #

    Well you know my real name is Marie, that I am not yet a grandmother and the handle Grannymar has been part of me since my mid twenties. Bloggers often ask when we meet what my real name is, then they tell me they think of me as GM and go with it. Elly has been known to call out ‘Grannymar’ in a supermarket or if we get separated when shopping.


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