Weekly Photo Challenge: Free Spirit

5 Sep


My Mum was a free spirit.  She smoked like a chimney and drank like a fish.  I am not at all like her, except in looks.  I drink like a chimney and smoke like a fish.

I made albums for people to read through after her funeral.

My Mum had a child out of wedlock.  Though a Catholic girl in the Fifties, she never once felt ashamed of her beautiful boy.  I had my first child a definite five years after my wedding.

Mum joined the Army as a teenager; she was stationed in London.  She didn’t much like it and went AWOL with a friend, running home to Nan in Liverpool. Nan gave them food, bath and beds, then took them to the police station next morning, where they gave themselves up.  The Army was lenient.

We provided plenty of free spirits for her mourners. It’s what she would have wanted.

Mum loved working and hated that I loved being a stay-at-home Mum.  We disagreed a lot, about a lot of things.  Except that we loved each other.  I always knew I could count on her.

I don’t know the half of what she got up to in her life, though I have learned a bit since she died.  I am too strait-laced to share what I do know (I make rulers look like elastic bands) but, trust me: she was a free spirit.  I miss her every day.

One of the times she’d have approved of me, if she’d been there.


60 Responses to “Weekly Photo Challenge: Free Spirit”

  1. SidevieW September 5, 2012 at 13:41 #

    It is good to recognise differences and accept that they exist but are no impediment to love.


  2. Hudson Howl September 5, 2012 at 13:49 #

    Your mother, so it seems made her own way, to which I say “hooray”. You too have made your own way to which I say, “hooray”. And SidevieW pretty much summed up after that.

    Thanks for sharing, you made me think.


  3. misswhiplash September 5, 2012 at 14:07 #

    all of us old’ens have/ had a flighty past..it was what made life so much fun. Young people today think they have the edge on being ‘naughty’. Not in a million years!!! That was the 1950’s


  4. Al September 5, 2012 at 14:14 #

    Every lifestyle is exciting and interesting in its own right, especially to the person who is living it. The most fitting tribute to a departed loved one is to “tell it like it was.” Nice post, Tilly.


  5. sanstorm September 5, 2012 at 14:33 #

    Nice tribute 🙂
    It reminds me if when a friend said to another: “it’s people like you that have children like me”.


  6. jmgoyder September 5, 2012 at 14:36 #

    This made me cry!


  7. SchmidleysScribbling September 5, 2012 at 14:47 #

    I loved my Mom too, but she fell under the spell of prescription drugs when my brother was born and never got better before she died. Your tribute to your Mom is beautiful. Dianne


  8. adinparadise September 5, 2012 at 15:00 #

    Lovely share about your dear Mom, Tilly. She definitely sounds like a free spirited woman. I think that the love between a daughter and her mother is non-negotiable, even though at times, the relationship can get tumultuous. 🙂


  9. gigihawaii September 5, 2012 at 15:52 #

    So she smoked like a chimney and drank like a fish… Lol. I like the idea of serving alcohol at a funeral. Save the champagne for me!


  10. terry1954 September 5, 2012 at 15:58 #

    i am sorry for the loss of your mom but so glad you have wonderful memories


  11. grannymar September 5, 2012 at 16:03 #

    A wonderful tribute to a great sounding mum.


  12. vivinfrance September 5, 2012 at 16:21 #

    I love that you love her for her real self, gave her a great send-off and a lovely tribute now.


  13. kiwidutch September 5, 2012 at 16:23 #

    Wonderful that you got to know your mum, I didn’t know mine very well, even when she was still alive and so I’ve determined to do things differently with my kids.
    She clearly loved you and you clearly love her and you both knew it so that’s special indeed even though you were both very different in character.


  14. robincoyle September 5, 2012 at 18:07 #

    Your mom and I would have gotten along famously!


  15. speccy September 5, 2012 at 18:20 #

    Tilly, this is lovely- it gives a great sense of you both, and how strong your bond was.


  16. granny1947 September 5, 2012 at 18:28 #

    I think your Mom and I could have been mates….lovely memories.


  17. Gobetween September 5, 2012 at 19:40 #

    Oh no, drinking like a chimney … 😆


  18. viveka September 5, 2012 at 21:12 #

    That with drinking as a chimney battles me a bit – but you seams to handle it very well. *smile – there is so much proud in this post. My mum and I have been separated most of our life – when I was young she wasn’t around and when she became older I wasn’t around for many years – but still we are so likeness and sometimes when I do things I start laughing – because I do just like her. My mum gave me my free spirit and I love her for that.


  19. slpmartin September 5, 2012 at 23:09 #

    She sounds like she was a very strong woman…she would be proud of who your are despite you obvious flaws. 🙂


  20. sarsm September 6, 2012 at 01:06 #

    A real yin and yang tale, beautifully told…


  21. laurieanichols September 6, 2012 at 04:03 #

    That was beautiful Tilly. I can see how much you miss her. It is wonderful when despite the differences she is always your mommy.


  22. barb19 September 6, 2012 at 05:11 #

    That was a very touching tribute to your mum, Tilly and I’m sure she was as proud of you as you were of her. She was a free spirit, but then, so are you – in your own way!


  23. Three Well Beings September 6, 2012 at 17:45 #

    You love life, and that’s a tribute to your mum, for sure. She sounds like a woman who lived her life fully embracing who she was…and that’s a quality that always resonates with me. Lovely tribute. My heart always hurts for those who have lost their mothers while they are still parenting! oxo D


  24. Maggie L R September 6, 2012 at 19:49 #

    Here’s to your free spirited mum….


  25. Karen Snyder September 6, 2012 at 21:40 #

    A very sweet tribute to your Mum. I’m not sure when you lost her, but it makes no difference whether it’s been a week or years. I miss my Mom, too, and I’m sure I am more like her than I ever would have believed, even though we were often like oil and water.


  26. restlessjo September 6, 2012 at 21:41 #

    Lovely tribute and a great share, Tilly. I had little in common with my mum too, but an enormous pride in her.


  27. eof737 September 6, 2012 at 23:48 #

    Now why did I suspect I’ll see you in it? Good job! 😆


  28. Perfecting Motherhood September 12, 2012 at 02:57 #

    Sounds like your mom was a perfect example of a free spirit, and everything it comes with.


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